When you disagree with a parent, with their lifestyle, their beliefs, or the way they treat you (whether rightly or wrongly), you tend to want to fight them, or flee from the situation. While "Fight or Flight" can be an appropriate response, we generally don't use them properly.
So what are we supposed to do in situations like that? Last time we looked at this question to get us started; Who is God? We looked at the idea that if God is in control, then He has something I can learn from this situation, and He might use this to help my walk with Him, or He might want to use me to show my parents His love (Romans 8:28). So that is who God is... He loves us and is in Control. The next question that should come up in our brains as we deal with these situations is this... Who am I?
A few weeks ago in youth group we talked about the idea that we are "In Christ" if we have trusted Jesus as savior. This is our identity. We are no longer just the kid from the broken home, or the screw up, or the perfectionist, or the athlete, or the good student. All of those things, good or bad, might one day vanish. God wants us to know that our identity can be rooted in something bigger, something that will last, something that when we view ourselves, we can find purpose and meaning in all our life. He wants our identity to be found In Jesus.
So in Christ Jesus you are all children of God through faith, for all of you who were baptized into Christ have clothed yourselves with Christ. There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus. Galatians 3:26-27 (https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Galatians+3)
We are Children of God through faith in what Jesus has done for us on the cross. I know we covered most of this in RockLife, but it is so important to remind yourself of this truth. If you know who you are, what your life is based on, then that informs you how you can live and how you should respond. In the passage above, it says we are "clothed" with Christ. That means his life is ours, we no longer have to respond by being selfish and fighting/fleeing. We now have Christ's life and Christ strength in us to live that life.
May the God who gives endurance and encouragement give you the same attitude of mind toward each other that Christ Jesus had, so that with one mind and one voice you may glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ... Romans 15:5-6 (https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Romans+15&version=NIV)
We can glorify God with this life by responding like Jesus would, not selfishly, but selflessly. God uses these hard situations to make us more like Jesus and to help us see who we are, who we have working in us, who we need to focus on. If Jesus is our life, then our attention should be focused on and through Him. When we are in Christ, not only does he give us the power to live His life, but He starts to change our perspective. We seek to view our parents and our situations through His eyes. We learn to focus on what He has done for us and what type of life He has given us to live. We start to live out this life and share it with others. When we do that, God will start to use you as His willing instrument, and you never know how he might use you. He might just use you to show your parents what life with Jesus looks like. You just have to trust Him!
So when you are at odds with parents, stop and ask "Who am I?" That question will start to inform how you respond to them and to your own desires.
What does this life look like? How can you be an example? In Part 3 we will look at this question... What do I do?