What do we do when we don't see eye to eye with our parents? We started this conversation in the last few posts. We shared that you should start by asking these questions; "Who is God? Who am I?" I encourage you to read those articles because they set up this post and the ones that follow.
For today, we want to know what steps should we take. If we are "In Christ" then the way we respond to our differences with our parents should line up with Jesus' life, but most of the time we fight in or flee from those situations. But what if, Instead of fighting our parents or fleeing from the situation, we fought ourselves and our desire to always be right and we fleed from those sinful desires that make us think we should just get what we want out of the argument.
Dear friends, I urge you, as foreigners and exiles, to abstain from sinful desires, which wage war against your soul. Live such good lives among the pagans that, though they accuse you of doing wrong, they may see your good deeds and glorify God on the day he visits us. 1 Peter 2:11-12 (https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=1%20Peter%202)
If we do this, if we fight off our sinful desires and seek to live good lives (even among our parents), God can use that. If we show love to our parents, pointing out truth with our lives, our gentle words, and we fighting against our sinful flesh, then we can become an example, even as a teenager.
Don't let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity. 1 Timothy 4:12 (http://biblehub.com/1_timothy/4-12.htm)
So this is what the Bible calls us to, to be an example with our lives. This is what life with and in Jesus looks like. This life that you have in you, this is what it produces. So what would happen if we valued Jesus and what He says over what we think should happen? What if we set the example for speech, conduct, love, faith, and purity? What could that do in your relationship? How could God use you as an example in your parents lives?
Make no mistake, what these verses say is very hard, but remember what we shared in the last post;
May the God who gives endurance and encouragement give you the same attitude of mind toward each other that Christ Jesus had, so that with one mind and one voice you may glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ... Romans 15:5-6 (https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Romans+15&version=NIV)
As we become more in love with Jesus, it has an effect on the rest of our life and God uses that to have an affect on others (that can include your parents).
Over the next few weeks we will start a new series looking at how you can be an example in your life, and how God could use you in affecting your parents walk with Him.