How you live your life matters. You would agree with that. If you say that you are a follower of Jesus, it should show, but so often, when things are difficult and don't go your way, you choose to live in a way that doesn't reflect who you claim to be. This is never more true than in your relationship with our parents. So if you want to show them who you are in Christ, who you are as followers of Jesus, then you need to be an example. How do you do this?
You might think that you can't be an example, but 1 Tim. 4:12 tells us this:
Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity.
Let's look into that first area where we can be an example, our speech.
The word here for speech doesn't just refer to how we talk, but it also carries the idea of how we we communicate with our actions and behaviors.
Let me give you an example of this. If your mom tells you to clean your room, your response could be to say OK. That response would be showing your parents that you are willing to obey them (which is something that God wants children to do - Eph. 6:1-3). You could set an example for obeying (this doesn't mean you are better than your parents, but that you are showing them through your own words what it means to follow Jesus). But let's say you follow that up by not cleaning your room. Your speech is showing that you are not trustworthy and your actions are showing that you really don't want to obey Jesus and your parents.
So God calls younger people to be an example in their speech/life, to show your parents what it looks like to follow God.
Are you willing to do this? Are you willing to trust God enough to set aside how you feel and instead do what the Bible says is true?
When you do this, God starts to use your speech/life as an instrument in His hands to show His grace to you, giving you assurance of your relationship with Him (1 Jn. 2:3), and to the world around you, even to your parents (Matt. 5:14-16).
So when your parents ask you to do something, will you react with a harsh tone or a sarcastic look, or will you lovingly act and say ok, following it up with your actions.
If your parents yell at you for no reason, will you react by yelling back and storming out, or will you act in obedience to God by talking calmly, focusing on the truth in love and leaving the conversation at the appropriate time.
Your words matter. Your actions matter. God can use them as an example of His love and grace.
Will you let Him?